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Please help. I have a question! I have a 4 month old whose bed time is at pm. He sleeps until 7 am all through the night. He naps at ,1,and 6. His 1 o clock sleep is about hours. My son also is the type that after eating he is wide awake so a dream feed has never worked! He has a normal pattern of up 2 hours-2 hours and a half and then sleep 2 hours.
Thanks so much!! I read the symptoms of going to bed too late, but my daughter goes to bed at and she does all those things gets up early the next day, wakes up in the middle of the night to come to my bed, cannot go to sleep at a normal time without a melatonin dr prescribed.
She reads her books before bed, does not drink water, and goes to the bathroom. Is the bed time too early? Hi, Krystal. There are many, many factors that can cause a child to have difficulty sleeping. Without knowing the age of your daughter or her bedtime routine, we can tell you that early bedtimes are often helpful and are even more important when there are any struggles with falling asleep or waking too early.
Perhaps is too late! Best of Luck! Oh goodness, I thought I put her age, I am sorry! She is 6 years old. She had activities that go past some nights, as well as homework and book reading. Did you ever figure out how to solve your problem? Just asking cause I am having the same exact problem as you with my 6 year old son.
I would do research on melatonin in young children such as your daughter. Long term use and starting it at such a young age can be dangerous. I am floored a doctor would prescribe a medicine to make a child go to sleep. The childs body needs to learn to produce its own melatonin not use a synthetic form of it.
My now 15 yr old had a awful time with sleep when she was younger. I also used the warm odject trick witch i used a warm pack would give her something warm to relax her.
No tv was a big thing to break at least a half hr before bed and we would read a book or just lay or sit and talk about calm things. Either way please look up reserch for use of melatonin in young ones. Hi, Sue.
Try reading that blog and see if any of our suggestions help. Another caution — try not to create any new habits that might involve her needing you to fall back to sleep! My son turned 4 this past September. He no longer takes naps during the day. He sometimes ends up falling asleep during the day on his own on the couch or in his room. We put him to bed around , and that is a struggle. We read him a book and then try to leave but he complains that he wants us to sleep with him.
We usually lay with him for 10 minutes and tell him we will be back to check on him if he is still not sleeping. He will usually fall asleep after that closer to now , BUT then he wakes up a few times a night and comes into our bed. We will bring him back to his bed and he is again back in ours an hour or two later. His behavior is getting worse and I think a lot of it has to do with his sleep habits!
HELP please!! Hi, Meghan! Behavior and Sleep are so closely related and your little one certainly seems tired! Although there can be lots of factors involved, we typically find that a bedtime around 7pm is best for 4-year-olds. Similar to several other comments of moms of two year olds — my husband and I are having a really difficult time with getting our child to sleep past His bed time has been 8 PM sometimes and he naps at school between hours.
In fact, we read your article yesterday evening and tried putting him to bed at to see if that would help anything. Instead of helping, he woke up at and after four attempts over the period of 45 minutes to get him to lay back down for more sleep, we gave up.
Should we continue to try for an early bed time over the next week and see if that helps? We are at our wits end with the current wake up time especially because we are not early risers and do not get up before earliest and is just completely unreasonable. I am completely clueless as to why he is doing this. I thought after a week of daylight saving time being over, he would have adjusted, but nothing has changed. Hi, Lane.
It does typically take about 10 days for kids to adjust. Our own kids are finally getting back to a good wakeup time! Feel free to email or call us to set up a consult. I have a little boy who turned 3 in August. Since he started sleeping through the night, he gets up super early around 5, sometimes earlier. We put him in bed every night no later than 8. Do we need to put him down earlier to help him sleep later?
Early waking can be a factor of many things. But if you suspect that an earlier bedtime might help and it may , try it for a week or two and see if you notice a difference. If not, there may be other factors contributing to the early wake and we would need to look more broadly and ask lots more questions!
Good luck. However, she will lay there awake for a long time trying to go to sleep and sometimes it gets to be so late that I finally go in and rock her because I know she has to be frustrated. Where am I going wrong? We wish we could tell you just based on that info, but as you know, a lot more affects sleep, from environment to nutrition and exercise, to habits and consistency, and more. With kids napping once a day, we often see good results with a nap right in the middle awake about 5 hrs, nap for about 2 hrs, awake another 5 hrs, then bed.
You may need to play around with nap time and bedtime. Good luck! I am 12 years old, and my parents make me go to bed at What do u think I should do? What should I do? Maybe you can suggest they read this post. An appropriate bedtime also depends on what time you wake up each day, how active you are, and more.
Do you have trouble falling asleep at ? Do you have enough time to do your homework, hang out, read, relax? Definitely speak to them about it in a thoughtful and respectful way. But do realize that your parents are giving you a gift — prioritizing sleep is so important and will help you stay healthy and be at your best! They always struggled to fall asleep. I recently made my own lavender linen spray, which I spray on their bedding just before bedtime.
This has helped tremendously as lavender is calming they usually fall asleep within 20 min! Hi i am a first time sahm, my son will be 11 months at The end of this month he was sleeping through the night at months and when he started teething just stopped and we figured it was that.. When we try to put him to sleep he will scream and scream until we can manage to rock him to sleep he will then wake up at 12am 3 am and 6am ready for day naps during day are around am and then then pm.
My husband and I have no idea what we are doing wrong and desperately need our own restful night sleep any advice? Thank you! You are doing a great job! Hugs from another sleep deprived mommy. I personally, would just go with his natural rhythms. Before you know it, his rhythms will change again. My son wakes up really early too. I have found that if I leave it fairly dark, but allow a little bit of morning light to come through he sleeps longer.
Go figure…. Hang in there, Emily! We actually find that we can help babies and parents start sleeping through the night at 6 months. You may find some helpful tips on our blog. Please let us know if we can help. Hi there, my 9 month old is asleep by 6.
I am certain he is warm and the room is dark still at 5am. He takes two naps, about 2 hours each sometimes a bit longer. I am considering possibly cutting his naps a little, Should I reduce both naps to 1. Hi, Roshanne. However, we typically find that babies that age do better with an earlier bedtime so you can give that a try for a few weeks. On school days, she takes Naps from pm, and we thought she would be tired and sleep earlier on school days but she still doesnt sleep until pm!
She often asks for water then has to pee.. On non school days, if grandma is watching her, she lets her take 2. So then she wont go to bed until 10 or 11pm and wakes up around am-9am every morning.
Does this balance out?.. HI, Mai! This is not an uncommon problem at this age! You can try to cap the naps and wake her after an hour and a half to see if that helps. Try a bedtime closer to 7pm and see if that helps. There are often many factors involved when a child is struggling with sleep. However, I would greatly appreciate some advice. I was raised with early bedtimes and compliant kids who were happy to go to bed, but MiL mother in law has no desire whatsoever to enforce a bedtime or any other household rules, but that is a different story.
Is there any way for me to politely interfere? I have kept my mouth shut for our 4 years of dating and year of marriage to keep from making waves, but I am getting concerned for the health of SiL. She has been sleepwalking and was even held back a year probably also due to lack of other rules, like MiL not making SiL go to school, do homework, etc.
I know that she is a smart girl, but does not have the motivation to take care of herself or the parental guidance to be taken care of. It certainly seems like you have a lot on your plate! We understand that family relationships are often filled with conflict — especially when parenting styles differ.
He goes off to sleep between 9 I often think hes a little tired first thing and would benefit from a little more sleep, if only he would go off to sleep sooner. His behaviour is good though so no probs there. Any advice? More relaxation at bedtime? Keep a sleep diary? Great question. It can be difficult for older kids to settle down for sleep.
Make sure all screens are off at least an hour before bed, as the blue light they emit can delay the production and release of melatonin. Is he getting enough exercise during the day? Is his room dark, cool, quiet or with white noise? Beginning the wind down earlier will give him more time to transition.
What does he say is preventing him from falling asleep? Does he have a lot on his mind? Good luck and keep us posted. Hi there, I think my son 33months old doesnt have enough sleep. He sleep 9hours at night, fall asleep at 9 — I expect him taking nap for2hrs, but he doesnt. And there is something wrong with him when he naps. After he nap 1hr, he screams, cries, and doesnt fall back asleep.
If i go to his room, and calm him down, he will cry clouder, and behave angrily. I dont know why. What can i do now to fix his nap time and make him sleeep more. My kids seem to be awful sleepers. Bedtime is 7pm…it was 8pm, but DD is ready by 7pm and DS quit napping. Any suggestions?? Another key to getting kids, especially toddlers, to sleep through in their own beds is setting clear boundaries and enforcing them consistently.
Maintaining a consistent routine and schedule is also a pillar of good sleep hygiene. If you need further support, please contact us directly to book a consult. You can do it 2 ways. First is cold turkey, just put them back in their own bed every time they get up and try to come in your bed. It takes a couple of tough weeks before you see a change. It is very easy to give in, I know this! But it than makes things so much harder the next time you try.
As for the waking up for the day so early, try and get them to stay in bed an extra 10 minutes and increase this weekly.
Parenting is never easy and you are never prepared because every child is completely individual. I hope you get the sleep routines worked out for your own sanity. I bought a sleep cd off the internet, its brilliant, loads out there, I insist on no tv or games after 6pm, I read a chapter from the narnia books, then its lights out, and put the cd on, it even sends me to sleep! Advice please!!
My 4-yr old is suddenly having extreme difficulty falling asleep at night. Her bedtime is , and has been for over a year. But sometimes I still hear her awake and moving around as late as !! And then she wakes between 6 and 7 in the morning with no difficulty.
Does she just not need the recommended amount of sleep? Should I let her stay up later at night? I frequently babysit, and encounter this problem a lot. Kids will be super tired, but want to stay up to talk, make sure their parents get home ect. I sit there with them and tell then to close their eyes very important, sometimes this works by itself and walk them through a meadow.
This gets old after so many times, so I switch to describing things like hikes in the hills, petting animals, anything that will grab their attention without making them too excited. I start at their feet, and have them imagine their toes relaxing, then their ankles, all the way up to their shoulders.
This one has never failed me. What a wonderful idea! We love when caretakers are creative! This reminds us a great deal of mindfulness and meditation which we LOVE for our older, school-aged children and clients! Thank you for sharing this with our community!
In the morning we have to wake her several times before she get up. Both girls usually wake naturally around 7 which is perfect for the school day. As a mom of a 2-year-old, I find these bedtimes to be ridiculously early.
With these bed times, when do you suggest working parents to spend time with their children? On a good day, he goes to sleep around , but some nights, depending on what our schedule looks like, he may not be in bed until or even later. That said, he consistently gets 11 hours of sleep a night I stay home with him in the mornings, so I usually let him sleep until he naturally wakes up , and he takes a hours nap in the afternoon. Thanks for your feedback, Samantha.
As with all things children, every one is different and while most kids might follow these patterns, not all do. If your son is well-rested, well-behaved as much as a 2-yr old can be , falls asleep easily and wakes up rested in the morning, then it sounds like your schedule is fine for him. Hi : thank you for this great information!
My daughter is almost 10 months and has never been a good napper. She just dropped her 3rd nap but I have a really hard time getting her to take 2 good naps. One is usually only 30 minutes. She almost always wakes at 6am. Do you recommend just going with the set, by the clock nap times and the consistency will make her body adjust? Thanks for any help! My daughters 13 and thinks that on school nights is too early. I thought it was pretty late.
Is it too early or not? Hi, I have a 13 year old daughter and she is in bed before every night including weekends. She thinks this is too early for her age and her friends all seem to go later but I thought this was late.
Everyone has different sleep needs and bedtimes that work for them. If you try a later bedtime and she can still wake up easily feeling rested, then she can probably handle the later bedtime. She needs enough sleep to be her best physically and mentally!
Alternatively, if an bedtime enables her to be well-rested, you can allow her to stay up late on occasion to do things with her friends in the evening because she will be able to bounce back the next day. Kids who are chronically overtired have a much harder time recovering! My 13yr and 11yr old girls they share a room go to bed at 8pm, lights off pm. Weekends and 9pm lights off. My grandson just turned 11 months, he has such a difficult time falling asleep.
We put him to bed at around 9pm, he just play in his crib and then cry and cry until we come into the room then he started to play again. He cry couple of times a night, one around 3 am and 5 am then he woke up around 6 am. Are there any simple method to put a child to bed without him fussing so much? Kids that age can really only be awake a few hours at a time. Putting babies down to sleep before they are overtired is the best way of getting them down easily. Once they are overtired, it becomes a struggle!
Give that a try and let us know if you would like more support. I live with my parents right now do to some health problems. Me and my two kids sleep in the same room.
I have a two year old and a three year old. The house stays noisy until nine thirty. I have a sound machine but it only lessens the sounds but it doesnt help enough. When I do put the kids to bed they play and run around the room until they finally crash around midnight.
It is really challenging, and I strive to get them as much sleep as possible, but we cannot give them each their own rom, and they are cutting out their naps, and they are just turning 3 this month… So stressed!!! My almost 4 year old goes to school 5 days a week and takes a nap there everyday. He stays in his room and just reads books, talks to himself, etc.
He wakes up at no matter what. On the weekends, he has quiet time and chooses to not take a nap. My question is, how can I get him to actually sleep earlier?
I just always feel so bad seeing him in there for so long by himself :. You could also try relaxation techniques before bed, like meditation. You could also speak to his daycare about limiting his nap to 1hr and see if that helps. Good luck, and let us know if you need more support. Help is at hand, however. A chart created by pupils at Wilson Elementary school in Wisconsin is being shared widely online as a potential solution.
The chart covers children aged from five to 12 and shows parents exactly when their children should be going to bed, based on when they got up in the morning — with bedtimes for five year olds starting as early as 6.
So a five year old who has risen at the crack of dawn at 6am should be ushered off to bed at 6. For an eight year old, rising at 6am means bedtime at 7. And for 12 year olds, who should hopefully have a well-established sleeping routine, the timing can be a bit more flexible. As a rule of thumb, if they get up at 6.
The full chart can be found online here. One study even found that putting kids to bed early can make for a happier family overall.
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